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Don’t Regret The Past. Just Learn From It

one of the things that when things don’t work out one of the things I’ve been telling myself and also thinking about a lot is apart from the fact of learning which we’ll go into is just that spaceI’m actually understanding that there may be a different loop see we get attached to having one root one method one way of working we believe that there’s only one pathway to where we want to be there’s this conveyor belt of things we have to do whether,

it’s you know get a degree find a partner buy a house you know to play golf whatever it is like this conveyor belt of efficiency and productivity that we hear that becomes a part of our natural progression and when that breaks apart that’s when we start to worry that when we start to think but notice that then actually it’s a lot better when that happens earlier in life see regret has some really important roles the first one is that it helps us make sense of the world from our perspective for one of the first time seeing most of us have spent our lives learning what’s important to us based on maybe what families who were communities to what parents to what education to whatever,

it is when you start regretting something new thing you did something wrong when you start thinking that I could have done something differently you’re making sense of the world from your perspective it’s crazy how powerful this is right you’re starting to make sense of the world from your perspective the second thing is it allows you to avoid future negative behavior if you knew you regretted something why don’t you write it down right now right if you regret me to write it down right now because it will teach you so much in the future you’ve got to write down the lesson you learn now otherwise next time when you think you’re making another tough decision you’re gonna say to yourself,

Oh what did I do last time how did I not make myself regret that and then you’re gonna be upset you’re gonna regret that you didn’t write it down so write it down right now that’s generation if you create a huge amount of positives negative will become small if you create a huge amount of negatives they will become big and positive will become small this whole life is there has never been a point anytime and there never will be where everything is perfectly okay there’sno such thing because life is a possibility because it’s a possibility cannot be perfect doesn’t matter what we do there’s still something more to do always that is why it’s an endless possibility striving does not mean,

I want to be a good man Sid being morally good he’sonly good for the society not good for the human being yes if if you’re morally correct it’s good for people around you because you contained but it’s not good for this life so this life needs a little different kind of nurture in that context how many people in this world are going to start before you and may fall dead how many people in how many people will be set the seed that they will be striving to be a better life than the way they are right now a little higher expression of life this is all your focus patience is for the impatient that in fact when you’re getting started in your in-laws are making faces at you,

and you’re not sure if you’re gonna be able to pay the rent and you don’t know why you’re living in Brooklyn, to begin with, and you’re gonna have to move back to Florida it’s easy to say you know what I need to go faster to pick up these scraps and sometimes what that does is it gives you the foot up to get to the next level but sometimes what that does is it just makes your scrap collector and that one of the things that we see when we look at the work of people who have put really big ideas into the world who have built online platforms right is that they got there by being patiently impatient or impatiently patient whichever way you want to juxtapose it that if you look around at the blogs you read or the people you respect online or the organization’s you want to work with them of the overnight success is just that a myth,

that you know the much-vaunted twitter was a failure a complete failure for two years nobody used it and if they took the mindset of well if it doesn’t work in two weeks we got to go do something else you never would have heard of it no I wanted to be an actor since the time I was about seven years old and it didn’t make any sense because I grew up in Nashville Tennessee and my dad was a doctor and my mom was a nurse and I just don’t know I just I ended up telling my mom I really didn’t want to be an actress and my neighbor was had a flower shop and they did a commercial down the street and then they asked me to be in it and that was it,

I was like I have got to do this and as a little kid from the time I was seven years old every Saturday I would go for four hours of acting class every Saturday, whoa and I loved it I just left it till the point with all the kids graduated and went on to the other stuff and I started doing adult acting classes and then I was in the commercial classes and then I loved like the hair and makeup classes and just everything I just couldn’t get out we both work out guys we like to go to that would be like that we like to go to the gym all right how many times have you seen people in the gym they spend more time on their playlists taking pictures doing stuff aesthetic getting their work instead of getting their workout done,

so true it’s just like you know and here’s the thing all right-you’re a very intense person I can tell okay I’m a very intensive person we apply we value our time yes all day how do you get results in the gym it isn’t about spending two to three hours working out people say I spent three hours you can spend three out you may buy time you pulled into the parking lot the by timing change got some breakfast put your workout clothes on talked to eight people than all that stuff you were there for three hours you did you that you did your three hours no intensity, yeah all right people talk about,

hey hey you know you post a couple of workout things you see any your buff guy or you’re next you’re in a great shape all right people say and I want to look like you all right they don’t see what it takes to look like you not only in the gym outside of the gym the intensity that’s them you’re in the gym and I’m assuming you workout with music you had some headphones on you got to get a certain amount of stuff done in a certain amount of time or you’re in this in ten stuff somebody comes up to you, yeah and you don’t want to be rude to them see if now you take your headphones off they ask you a question they want to take a picture with you all I recognize you from so and so alright, Motivational Thoughts

and then then they request this how do I get to look like well one way you get to look like me is leave me that’s a long and start hit the sign hidden the weight starts not lifting it’s the intensity that you have it has to be in everything you do you have to be an intense person in your work out the way you did the way you eat okay that’s that’s intensity how do how do you fuel up your metabolism rate so you burn in these calories so you can get that definition that’s intent that’s an intensity how do you get to be successful you know if the old man he or she he’s so intense no you know what he and she that’s how you’re supposed to be you’re at a different level right and that’s what I said,

the intensity is so it’s so important it’s what really separates those individuals and you can’t get into that zone and you can’t get arms and abs like Edie or you can’t do it unless you have that intensity and you’re willing to block out the distractions we have so much access nowto information yeah this is literally at our fingertips you know everything okay why are more individuals doing less you’re right because they’re easily distracted I started traveling I had been to a bunch of countries really liked it I lived in West Africa for four years and started kind of trying to figure out okay how many countries have I been to how many countries in the world are there once I had this information,

it was very difficult to do anything else right because once I had this information I was like oh I’ve been to like 50 countries there are 193 countries it was192 I would like to visit a hundred countries sometimes in my life I set that goal first you know but you just said you say I would like to because I would like to do a lot of things but I know I want to I feel drawn to it I feel like this is a goal I’m gonna you know attached to myself and at the time it wasn’t public it was just like a private thing this is before I was blogging you know and then as I started getting closer to that goal of a hundred countries that’s when I thought well what’s next because if you’re only going to half the countries then you’re missing a lot of challenges and you could just go to easy places so that’s,

when I so I had this information of like okay could I really do you know that was like could I really go to every country I don’t know if I could or not like this is like a huge thing it’s gonna cost a lot not just in terms of money but also in terms of time and like sacrifice and logistics things could go wrong you know fear but really when it came down to me too for me was not the fear of something going wrong along the way once I actually started thinking about this and was like maybe I could actually do this in like seven to eight years if I really worked at it then what I was afraid of was not doing it I was afraid of like you know having this idea and then just passing on it right you know and just continuing to travel a little bit I’m that guy who travels once in a while but what’s that you know like and then I didn’t want to get old right and be like you know,

oh once no like ten years ago I had this idea you know to do something but I never did anything about it you know that’s what that’s what drove me the fear of being ordinary or if not the fear of regret of not following up on a dream that I that I had that I knew I didn’t know if I could succeed I thought I might fail but I figured if I failed I could deal with that you know but not if I just didn’t do it right that’s what drove it something bad might happen to you in order to teach you a lesson to prepare you for something better later on I know it’s hard to think like that in the moment of the bad thing happening,

but if you really think about it all the negative things and the positive things that led you to where you are today got you to where you are today and if not for those negative and positive things you might not be here you might not have the great job you just got or the little girl sitting next to you on anything like you you can’t can’t you can’t live with any regrets you know saying cuz it’s all Isaw I learned process from the beginning to where you are now to where you will be you you’re learning the hallway and you going you gonna drop some stuff you’re gonna fall on your face you gonna break some eggs and that’s just part of what it is to be a lot.

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