3. Stockpile fun distractions.
We all need to keep lists handy of the things that make us happy. One of the cruelties of our condition is that when we need distractions most, we are least equipped to seek them out. For this reason it is important to compile a list of our favorite activities when we are feeling optimistic to be used when we most need them. Our brains can only process so much input at once. When we are engrossed in a beautiful movie, talking to a good friend on the phone, or listening to our favorite music while lying on a heating pad or in the bathtub, we can trick our pain receptors into leaving us alone! Meanwhile improvements in spirit have an added impact on our entire well-being. Laughter is good medicine; while dwelling on our troubles tends to compound them.
4. Shape your perspective.
Is the glass half empty or half full? Perspective determines, quite literally, how we view the world. Through this lens, developing a condition that makes us feel more dependent and less productive is likely to be a disappointment. Yet as we get older, it becomes more likely that we, or somebody close to us, will experience debilitating problems. People are often forced to adapt to sudden, new conditions by adopting a perspective that accommodates change. Our perspectives are shaped by the comparisons we make and the expectations they create.
5. Create a new self.
If we hang on tightly to the “old self” we were, finding the value of our “new self” becomes increasingly difficult. (We may even exaggerate how fit that person was: “I didn’t need any sleep, I never felt bad, I could do anything!”)
This does not mean we should totally discard our previous conception of self; rather, we need to find a way to integrate the two. In other words, we should seek to find in our new bodies new ways to enjoy and experience the things that we had done before.
6. Don’t forget the good stuff.
By focusing on the positive aspects of our life, we become more aware of how many there are: the friends that stuck by us, the things we still enjoy, and the accomplishments we have been able to make, however small, under very different conditions. Because each task now represents a challenge, we should celebrate whatever we accomplish. Something to be very proud of.
“Oy, it could be worse.” (The Jewish mantra).
As comparisons shape our view, it is helpful to find comparisons that will provide a fuller appreciation for what has befallen us. Try to think of it this way: Many bad things happen in the world. The odds are that some of them will happen to us. Not because of anything that we have done. It takes only a short view of the evening news to remind ourselves of the horrors occurring every day. So, this is what has happened to us. We too were caught.
Let us examine what we have:
(a) We know our condition is not terminal, so we need not begin contemplating our pending mortality.
(b) As bad as we sometimes feel, our underlying condition is not going to get worse. We have already experienced the worst, and to our credit, have gotten through it.
(c) Although few people achieve permanent remission, many improve significantly. As we understand how our actions and emotions influence our general well-being, we can find ways to partake in more and more activities.
Keep the hope alive!
There is so much room for hope. We are in a far better position than the generations before us who suffered without ever receiving validation. It is only a matter of time.
4. Lean on me!
A single most important predictor of how we do is the support network we create. We certainly appreciate what it means when someone helps us when we feel especially lousy. Make sure that, within your means, you continue to be a good friend to those you care about. We still have lots to give. Help your family and friends find ways to maintain their relationship with you. Invite them to your place to eliminate traveling (and do not worry what your place looks like! They came to see you, not your housecleaning abilities).
5. Indulge whenever you can.
We have lots of time to focus on our thoughts. Most people do not have the luxury of taking time to relax and think. Ok, we did not ask for these “time-outs.” They are demanded by the needs of our bodies. Nevertheless, we have control over how we use this extra time. Instead of dwelling on what our bodies are not doing, give your fantasy full liberty. Turn these rest periods around to be indulgent time. Positive Thinking
4.1 There is nothing you cannot be. Nothing you cannot do. There is nothing you cannot have! Once you learn the simple principles of mastering a positive attitude, you have to achieve your goals through a consistent state of attitude EVERY DAY OF YOUR LIFE, FOREVER. You can be, do and have anything with the proper ATTITUDE!
4.2 Be Positive
All thought is creative. It is possible to send and to receive thoughts telepathically. There fore, it is entirely possible that you are being impacted by the thoughts of others
Every successful person knows or learns how to protect their mind from the negative thinking of others.
Discover how to shield yourself from the unwanted negative thoughts and energy of others, and protect your mind.